How to Make A Man Miss You: Part Two of Three Powerful Insights

Step 2: Take Full Responsibility for Your Happiness

This is an interesting romantic myth in our culture that it’s our partner’s job to make us happy. And if they're unhappy, we let them down.

The truth is, that's ridiculous.

While the idea that others make us happy is well conveyed – “He makes me so happy” or “She makes me complete” – actually, it's a lot of doo-doo. Why? Because happiness is an internal work - fully and 100% of our own personal responsibility.

If we are not responsible for our own happiness, we make someone else (our partner) the guilty party. And this is fertile soil for resentment. The second we find ourselves unhappy, we point our fingers at them, blaming them for our lack of satisfaction.

This is one of the quickest ways for a relationship to collapse.

🔑 Solute:

So how can we avoid attributing our happiness to others and keeping it under our control? Get to know what you love, take care of yourself, find value and self-esteem outside your relationship (whether through a hobby, at work or volunteering)

and stop blaming somebody else when things go wrong (or you feel down).

Once you do this, you become one who no longer needs to be rescued, or drawn from a rut of discouragement. He can breathe a sigh of relief because he doesn’t feel the weight of obligation to save you and “fix” your emotional state. You no longer need your partner to assume the role of hero, and you as damsel in emotional distress.

Rather, you become a partner, a true equal to the person you associate with. It frees you and your significant others by doing respective happiness an inner work.

And that allows you both the chance to offer the greatest gifts you can in any romantic union: the best versions of yourselves.

Namaste 🙏🏾